The Mean Pastor's Wife or First Lady ...


The cat is not really grumpy...
Today I saw a segment promoting the new comedy film featuring "Grumpy Cat" on the Today show. The movie co-stars the cat saying grumpy things. Clearly, this is supposition because the cat cannot... Ummmm.....talk, right? Well, my sense of humor being what it is, I did some "supposing" of my own" So, I came up with a fun list of what a grumpy First Lady might say! Here is what I came up with:

1. "No, you cannot speak to my husband. He just got home for crying out loud!"

2. "I have no interest in attending your baby shower, Mary Kay party, Tupperware party or whatever money making scheme is popular now."

3. "You're scaring my kids! You may feel you know them, but they do not know you well enough to be spontaneously hugged, picked up, grabbed kissed and certainly not disciplined by you."

4. "Seriously? You sit in my reserved seat or park in my reserved spot? You take my husband 80% of the time, impose on my kids, call my home at all hours, sometimes pop up at my residence, expect me and/or my husband to attend every funeral, every tragedy, every hospital event, and you complain I that have a reserved seat or parking spot?"

5. "Sometimes I don't want to hear all your problems in middle Walmart."

6. [to Hubby] " Sure, you want me to attend this event with you. But, why not try staying home sometime, taking out the garbage, picking the kids up from school, folding some laundry, taking me out more often, stop snoring, try some Gas X and pick up your clothes from the floor. Maybe then your I will make your priorities mine, Brother!"

7. Yes! I wore that...AND?

 Now, this is an exercise in humor and humanity.

Now, most of us are very honored to be married to great men doing great things. But, IF we WERE indeed "grumpy", this is what we might feel. Totally hypothetical. In our role, we are indeed crucified with Christ and live sacrificial lives for the glory of Jesus. However, the humor imposed here had to make you chuckle or at least smile. If it did, then I was successful in delivering a quick smile to a self-less special woman of God.

God bless you this holiday season, First Lady. Be blessed!


Note: I left off at number 7. What other things might a grumpy First Lady/Pastor's Wife say...hypothetically....?

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Retreat - Pastors Wives

Pure relationship with Jesus ministers to the pastors wife
Some time ago, our church had an event. During these type of events, I usually I sit front and center in my normal spot.  My husband typically wants me to meet the guest speaker and I often see him point me out [to the speaker ]from the pulpit.  Sitting in my usual spot just makes sense during special services, revivals and such.

But the most recent event seemed ...well...different.  Although I was ok, I just felt lead to sit as far back in the church as I could possibly get.  I didn't want to feel the lights of the front row, I wanted to shrink and be revived. Again, nothing was the matter.  It was just a weird inkling. So, I did it,  ushers asked.  People inquired and my hubby even looked confused.  But each night I sat in my wonderful new "secret" spot.

Let me tell you, each evening of worship was a refreshing and pure experience with me and the Holy Spirit. That back row ministered to me in some way.  I can't explain it, but it did.  It was a "exhale" moment somehow and it reminded me of the time when church was just about me and Jesus.  That's it.  A senior pastors wife understands this statement.

I think that inkling was God's first call for me to come away with Him.  To steal away; to push back. Our lives are so demanding as senior pastors wives.  We live and manage spotlights, demands and pressure that would quickly "break" the weak.  But, by His grace we manage it.

During this season, God is calling me to return to the basics. To enjoy fellowship with Him without the noise, without the people, without the roles and void of expectation. In my quiet time with Him, I'm not mom, not wife, definitely not First Lady.  I am daughter, handmaiden and servant.

The basics.  As pure as worship without music. Fellowship without talking.  Just He and I.  His word in my hand and His voice in my spirit.  That's a retreat! Ya know?

"Prayer is the key of perfection and of sovereign happiness;
it is the efficacious means of getting rid of all vices and
of acquiring all virtues; for the way to become perfect is
to live in the presence of God."  Jeanne Guyon



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Prayer is the Key

Prayer is the key of perfection and of sovereign happiness; it is the efficacious means of getting rid of all vices and of acquiring all virtues; for the way to become perfect is to live in the presence of God. Wish I had written it, but it's a quote from Jeanne Guyon.

In love with pastor - how to handle the women who love your husband

Yes, she wants your husband.

One of the most difficult parts of being married to a pastor is dealing with those poor, misguided women that well...fall in love with your husband! So, how do I deal with it?

Two word answer: I don't. 

I know my response may seem foolish and even strange to some, but, it's how I really feel. I have lived long enough to know that I cannot control what others do in life. I cannot make women stop growing attached to my husband. I cannot even keep my husband from straying - should he decide to do it. There are some things he can do to prevent this, but, I am limited.  Think about it. Look at these few scenarios:

Scenario 1) If you go talk to the flirty women, you come across desparate, insecure and, maybe even a little silly. These all may be true, but I don't think you have to let people know it. Hey, the enemy doesn't know whether or not he is "getting to you" unless you reveal it with your actions or emotions!  He is not onimpotent, omnipresent, etc.

Scenario 2) If you talk to your husband about it constantly, he may see you as desparate, insecure and a little silly. Sure, you can advise him (because we often see things husbands don't),  But, beyond that, there is nothing you can do.

Scenario 3) You can pray about it and trust God to protect your home and preserve your portion. *DING DING DING* that's it! Right answer!

Psalm 16:5 NIV
"LORD, you have assigned me my portion and my cup; you have made my lot secure."
*Emphasis is mine.

Only Jesus can protect what is yours - your job, family, ministry, etc. He is able to change the heart of people, remove them and thwart the enemies plan.  He is everywhere all the time; you are not. He is your portion and He will keep your foot from falling....and He will do the same for your husband as you pray for him and cover him in the Spirit.

Trust God, girl...I mean Lady... with all your worries, doubts and concerns. He will perfect those things and be glorified through it all. Trust Him.... more than anyone else on this earth. Through it all, you'll learn to trust Him in exciting new ways.
 


How should a pastor's wife dress?

I am perplexed by how many people concern themselves with how their pastor’s wife dresses. My husband pastors a large Baptist church. He, himself, is rather conservative fellow. He’s basically a “meat and potatoes” kind of guy. But, me on the other hand, tend to gravitate toward the bright, shiny and noticeable clothing choices.
I really have these!  Great with jeans!

Now, my style is neither the hats, nor the feathers or sequins. That’s ok for my sisters who go for that, but not my style. But….I do LOVE bright colors of red, orange, yellow, etc. I also love to pair a 3 inch pair of sequin shoes with a nice pair of jeans and a blazer on any given Sunday. As my grandpa used to say, “you must simply take me as I come.”

Purple highlights! 
Hey, gimme a break!
Fortunately, my husband doesn’t care how I express myself with clothes. He accepts me. I like that about him. But, others seem to be consumed with what I wear (or don’t wear) and how I look. Do you know what I mean? If I allowed their opinions to run me; I’d go stark raving mad! I know who I am in Christ and it has little to do with man-made expectations of me. This was the case before I married a pastor and it certainly the case now.

When I’m unsure about an area of my life, I tend to ask myself one question: what did Jesus do? I do the same with my clothes. I believe Jesus dressed so ordinary that He blended with the people. Remember, Judas had to identify Him with a kiss for the Roman soldiers to know who He was. Jesus just blended with the crowed.

Blending in is good. That’s what works for me most days; however, on other days I like to jazz it up. Girl, my hair may be short one week, in a fro the next.  It may be blonde and it may have purple highlights. You just never know!

My church home is in the urban core and I think God placed me there for such a time as this.  So, as long as I don’t cause Jesus shame in my apparel; I think it’s all good. As long as I love His people with an open and full heart; it’s all good, and as long as my husband has that “look” in his eyes when he spots me….it’s really all good. Agree? Disagree? No comment? Love ya either way. :)
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Flying Under the Bullets - Senior Pastor's Wife


 
 
You know in the heat of battle, soldiers stay low. They stoop beneath the bullets and gunfire. In some situations, we have to do the same thing.
 
One of the biggest challenges of being a pastor’s wife is staying out of the line of fire. For example, when your husband makes a decision and that creates controversy, people can attempt to involve you. This is a tough situation, especially if you are not part of the church staff.
 
Yes, God said you are "one flesh" with your husband, but that does not mean you are really ONE person. So, if your husband demotes someone, changes a program or tells someone "no", don’t allow it to affect you. Your husband will share the pain and, maybe even the church member’s anger, over the situation, but stay low and choose only to support him. Keep the others in prayer, but fly under the bullets. Do not discuss the discord with others - especially others in the church!
 
Sometimes, the wives or family try to involve you. Don’t fall for it, if possible. I usually say "Well, God is on the throne and everything will be ok". If they continue to press, I will often ask if we can pray about it right at that moment.
 
Always stay prayerful, speak God’s word appropriately in trouble situations and you’ll be ok.
Then, remember to cast that care on the Lord. In the end, He is the only one who can really do anything to soothe the wounded and disappointed hearts of His people. Amen?
 

Pastor's Wife and Praying for Others

Noble or Nosey?


Today, somone on a Christian televsion show said in order to pray for a person, we must know details of their prayer request. I disagree.

Our job is to pray according to God's Word and allow the Holy Spirit to do the rest. You see, we are human and can often fall short in prayer because we do not know how to pray the way we ought. During those times, the Holy Spirit steps in (and steps up) to intercede for us with groanings that cannot be uttered.

You can pray effectively without knowing every
intricate detail of a person’s life.

In fact, I don’t
think people should ever feel pressured to share the
personal concerns of their heart in order to receive prayer.

Everyone does not have the spiritual maturity associated with keeping a confidence, refraining from personal judgment or abstaining from discussing what they learn about others. Now, if people volunteer information, that’s different. I’m discussing the need to inquire...to ask.

In our roles, we have several opportunities to hear very sensitive information about individuals lives.  We have to be careful to cast the cares as soon as we hear them so that we d not become burdened or stressed. Prayer is the perfect place to release the cares we often care for members of our church. I learned early on that I cannot carry the hurts and pains of those I love.  Prayer became the perfect conduit for transferring those cares to the One that can bring about change.

Relying on the Holy Spirit builds faith
Years ago, if someone asked me to pray, I would often respond with, “I sure will, what’s going on?” Then, the Lord prompted me to begin praying for people without asking any questions. Intitially, it was like walking in a strange room blindfolded. It was a journey in faith, but it trained me to pray God’s word and not according to feeling or emotion. You see, emotion doesn’t move the hand of God; He is only true to faith and His Word.

Motives…a great gauge
Some people want to know specific prayer requests simply because they are...well... nosy. You know I’m right. Others operate in the need to control and be “in the know” - both can be issues of pride. Godsy Girl, once we realize that God does not “need” us to bring deliverance; the more effective we can be in ministry, prayer and relationships. In fact, often times, after I pray for a person, they say I accurately prayed for their situation WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING what it was! What a blessing! It’s a blessing because during those times, the Holy Spirit of God gets all the glory.

Note: Now, if someone needs or wants to talk,
that is a different situation all together. We can support
one another with a listening ear and by giving counsel when
the Holy Spirit leads us to do so.

 

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